Everyone wants to be a “somebody”. Everyone is technically somebody but a “somebody” meaning popular, successful, having influence, and/or affluent with the need to state it. This distinction only goes to a very select few. This small amount of people whether permanently or temporarily gets to a level where they have the opportunity to choose between being a show-off or motivator. There is a huge difference and somewhere in the past, the definition of the two became interchangeable. This shouldn’t be. Not only are these not synonyms, but a person can’t be both at the same time.
Think of the “(fill in the blank) online guru” attempting to convince you to buy whatever product or course they are selling. The show off will present to you a video of them getting out of a luxury car after parking in a wrap around driveway in front of a 7000+ sq ft home. Cool but what exactly are you selling? The product or the lifestyle? The thing is you can’t buy a lifestyle and that is what show-offs sell. Motivators prep you for the work ahead. There is no reason to sell a lifestyle because without work there is no chance of living that way. In a motivator’s mind, if you need to complete step 1 there is no reason to show you or discuss the prize for completing step 10.
Let’s get back to the show-offs. I want readers who may believe they are motivating others by showing them results of later steps or material things to understand they are doing a disservice to both themselves and others. You are telling those you are trying to motivate that they can obtain something that takes lots of effort and time with minimal effort or time. This isn’t true and will quickly discourage those you are trying to motivate as soon as they run into a roadblock or more time than you sold has passed. If you did something to obtain what you are showing, you know this scenario is possible. If you didn’t actually obtain what you are selling and you are putting up a front, you are lying to yourself and others, setting yourself up for monstrous amounts of stress.
The stress from trying to create real moments out of a fictional situation. You also rob yourself of time by faking success rather than working towards the real thing. If you want to flaunt and floss, do so but don’t attempt to place the title of “Motivator” on yourself. Showing off is only for the individual doing it.
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Motivation is for others. Motivation includes instruction. Motivators are encouraging and uplifting. Motivators understand that everyone’s journey is different even with identical desired destinations. Motivators can be successful and unsuccessful. A cautionary tale can be just as motivating as a success story. Knowing what not to do comes with wisdom just as knowing what to do does. Motivation allows itself to be pulled from just about any scenario. What exactly is being pulled from show-offs? Is there any instruction in it? Well, no. That’s the point of this piece. They are not synonyms.
In closing, the difference is service. Remember, the only benefit of showing off goes to the show-off. The feeling is fleeting especially if you are living that lifestyle on a regular basis. Think about your current lifestyle. It is almost certainly a dream life for someone on this planet but if you’ve been living it for some time now you tend to forget how good you may have it thus taking away the reasoning for showing off. It just doesn’t make sense. Be wary of show-offs. It shows that they are both selfish and self-conscious. They crave to be the center of attention. They need material or money to feel as if they are “somebody”. The fact that they do have this need takes the status of a “somebody” away. Here is a quick test: Is the picture for this piece “showing off” or “motivation”?
Food for thought…You do the dishes.
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