We find ourselves admiring people at many points in life. One would think it would stop with age, but it doesn’t. We never get to pinpointing why the admiration is there. If we attempt to find an answer, we will discover two things. We may not know much about the person we think we admire. Secondly, we will realize our admiration lives with the success of the person, not so much the person. We can like attributes about a person, but a person is a person. We are people too. With that scope, there is nothing to admire. They breathe, eat, sleep, dream, and set goals just as we can. It is the results that make otherwise ordinary people, extraordinary. Once this understanding is grasped, we can begin to halt the admiration of specific people and focus on specific goals.
One issue with admiring a successful person instead of the success itself is, nine times out of 10, we don’t know that person. We don’t know them enough. The word admire can encompass many different things. It can be respect, praise, or appreciation. All those words require a deep knowledge to bestow them upon a person. Yet, we do it anyway. What happens when we tie our admiration to people? Well, that person can put a damper on your outlook of success. They can make you think it is impossible. They may make it look effortless. They may also go through something in their life that changes their outlook on the success they are achieving. Imagine a person we admire who goes through a tough time adjusting to success. Now, we are thinking if we can handle it. These thoughts would have never crossed our mind, but there it is. This method is the danger of placing a person into our idea of success. We should be careful. The person and the success of the person must be separated.
Those who we are watching from afar or celebrities are seen more frequently than most of our family. It is easy to see them and feel they have something we can’t seem to acquire. We may beat ourselves up for not being able to find “it.” We don’t think about them being in that same frame of mind not so long ago. We wonder what they are doing, what we aren’t, who they know, and who we don’t. It is a common, but incorrect thought process. Finding “it” is the equivalent of a dog chasing its tail. We are going in circles. “It” is “success.” Yes, the thing we were already chasing. Once we focus on the root of our admiration the chase starts to make more sense. We’ll see people who have done what we are attempting to accomplish as fuel instead of a reason to tap the break. Taking the focus off the person helps in focusing on success. We can achieve success. We can never be another person.
In closing, admire success, not the person. We may think it’s harmless, but the negatives outweigh the positives. We don’t need a person attached to our ideals. We don’t even need to put ourselves there. There is a large probability we will not be the person we are today when we do achieve the level of success we are chasing, so why invite an old version of ourselves to our new life? We should set a goal then chase it. We want and admire success. Knowing this fact will enable us to clear the path to exactly where we want to be. No person attached, just what we desire is our sight.
Food for thought. You do the dishes
