Yes, it is always something. Since it is always something, the goal should be to gain the skill of moving forward while whatever “it’ is this go around. It can be a new bill, an ailment, an argument, or a sudden life change. Whatever it is, “it” should not be the reason we do not continue working toward the goal we were working towards before it came to our attention. At times, we feel like quitting. Then “it” occurs giving us the opportunity to use it as an excuse. These problems have perfect timing. When we entertain the thought of stopping, we get another reason to do so soon after. The timing is way too good to be a coincidence. It seems like a test, doesn’t it?
If we do believe this is a coincidence, we should dismiss that and accept it as a test. We often get overwhelmed or frustrated because of new problems arising while we are still working on others. We think of quitting only to be greeted by more reasons to stop. It is always something. The internal battle is ongoing, one day we doubt ourselves and the next day, we are one of our biggest supporters. This battle is usually okay because of a perfect balance of negative and positive. External confirmation can be the reason a goal occurs or a dream is killed. The belief negativity breeds negativity gives insight into why we think of stopping and seem to receive more reasons to do so shortly after. Have we asked “Is it possible, this works both ways?” Positive thinking seems to have some taboo or corny label. Positivity isn’t taboo or corny. Yes, is the answer to is it possible this works both ways. If you sit and think of reasons to keep working towards something, you’ll be amazed at the plethora of reasons that will come to you. There will still be issues that pop up out of nowhere, but the difference will be they will no longer look like potential excuses. The issues will look like confirmation you are getting closer to your goal. It will be just another test to pass.
Grit is another trait we need to build the skill of moving forward regardless of a new problem coming. Grit, is defined as courage and resolve or strength of character. Courage allows us to attempt to do something knowing, there is a chance of failure or disappointment. The knowledge of failure scares off most of us. The lack of resolve takes care of the majority of what is left. The ability to stick with the pursuit of something is a skill most of us don’t have. This is why only a few of us really get to experience living the life we originally set out to live. That statement is not a shot at us, just fact. Grit is not only an important skill to have, it is the most important. Grit actually trumps skill or talent in the level of importance. Let’s say we are the most talented singer in the world. If we lack grit, the chance of anyone outside of our friends and family discovering our talent is slim to none. Talent cannot take us where grit can take us. A person with a decent voice with the courage to put themselves or their talent in front of the masses has a huge advantage over the higher-skilled singer who does not. The resolve to roll with the punches of pursuing a dream like a professional singer with the determination to practice day after day places them in a position, the grit-less, most talented singer in the world will never reach.
In closing, there is always something. New problems will always come to light, but our mindset and approach can stop them from having an overly negative effect. Looking at new issues as challenges, in addition to confirmation we are on to something will improve our overall stress level and make life more enjoyable. We’ll still see these problems as a nuisance. The difference will be our positivity stopping these negative occurrences from swaying us towards quitting or confirming our negative thoughts leading to abandoning our goals. Let’s embrace the “taboo” and “corny” mindset of positivity. It is one of the best decisions we could ever make for ourselves.
Food for thought. You do the dishes!
