People drive me crazy at times, well most of the time. One day, I can be included in the bunch and others I feel like a Martian walking this planet. I feel most of the irritancy comes from my expectations. Adding that with being super logical, this world can be hard to deal with from day to day. I came across a term that may help those who go through life like myself. That term is Intentional Patience. Intentional Patience is giving ourselves and others space and time to grow into our potential. The definition states we aren’t meant to catch up with each other or live up to arbitrary expectations. We are here to grow at our own pace to encourage and support one another. It is getting out of the way so that things, people, and/or you can grow in the right time and way. It sounds like a plan but I’m super impatient and have pushed myself in life by being so. How can I and people like myself attempt to adopt this approach to save ourselves from the unneeded tension?
In terms of other people or things, I like the idea. I know most of my issues when it comes to people are expecting them to handle issues/scenarios like I would or at least logically. When that does not occur, I need to remove myself or tune out like the illogical actions can jump from them to me. I lose some respect for them. I remember not to come to them to bounce ideas back and forth. Yes, I know that is a little much but it’s true. Adopting the approach of acknowledging people grow at their speed and have different potential levels will help. My worry is them needing one person to say they believe they can do something and me shutting up because I’m trying to be intentionally patient. Where is the balance? How do I distinguish a person who needs that push versus a person that will fall after one? Do I only push friends and family? Just family? No one? I don’t know. I do know who I’ll never stop pushing and that’s me.
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I am against the approach for applying it to yourself. I have no idea how one can go through life not attempting to make things happen. I know people do it but I just can’t sit and wait for something I feel I can expedite. I understand that I can mess up and delay something that would have occurred if I stood still but I can’t stomach thinking something I wanted didn’t occur because I didn’t attempt to go the extra mile to get it. Biting off more than I can chew is kind of my thing. It can be stressful at times but that bite then belongs to me and it is up to me to learn to chew it. I like this scenario more than being handed a portion that I feel won’t extinguish my hunger or worse is something I don’t want to eat. I think people like myself can adopt the fact that it takes time to reach your potential. I think we get that. I also know if our potential is a perfect 100/100, we’ll be killing ourselves trying to figure out a way to get it to 101. We’re just built that way.
In closing, we all need to lay off people. That can be easing up on them if you want them around or disassociating yourself with them if you can’t deal. You can’t make anyone do anything faster than they want to. Yes, even if it is good for them. It’s a losing battle and bothers you more than it bothers them. If it didn’t, wouldn’t they have addressed the issue just to get you off their back? Do you want to change their minds about something? Present the information and walk away. Do you want to change their methods of completing something? Show them a different way and walk away. You want them to stop something they are doing? Explain the issues that are caused as a result of their actions and….you got it, walk away. This is the way to practice intentional patience with others. Oh, and the walk away part is so you don’t flip out when they don’t do what you just took your precious time to show/explain to them. Intentional patience is self-preservation. Try to apply it.
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