PSA: Attention please. This road of following dreams and/or leading an entrepreneurial life is difficult. (This is written with the understanding that the person seeking support is good to great at what they do and/or making a decision for the better.)
In the beginning, what we tend to look for is support. We look in our immediate vicinity. Yes, that is the natural thing to do but surprisingly a few steps into the journey or weeks after the leap (of faith), you learn something. What you learn is not much support comes. This is not the end of the world but it can feel like it. You remember sitting around with family, friends, co-workers discussing dreams. All sharing and dreaming their own dream. You start walking towards yours and the crowd is gone….hey, hello, where did they go?
Well, what tends to occur is your old crowd doesn’t know how to mesh with the new you. It may not be any malice in it at all. We will discuss that scenario first. You grow up with a person. You live the same life. You both have grand but separate goals. You or your friend decides to start. This is the most different you two have ever been. You or your friend starts to see the other growing in ways once only imagined. The majority of watchers would watch in silence really not knowing what to do. The answer is to support like it’s you doing it. I know it’s not easy but they took a chance and put themselves out there. That takes guts plus they are your friend/family/coworker/spouse. Support your people without asking for a discount. In this case, the discount is you wanting to be excused for your absence. You want them to understand that you support them but without showing it. Oh….okay. Well, now you know that is not okay because you wouldn’t do it to you.
The other scenario is jealously/hate. This will also happen. These people are not for you and never were. They were keeping tabs to see if you’d actually walk your talk. They were enemies in disguise hoping, praying, wishing, you’d quit or fail just for the sake of seeing it. They were hangers on who couldn’t take your ascension and failed at fulfilling their role as a hanger on. You don’t need support from them and shouldn’t take it even with a discount.
In closing, if you are at this step in life, I can help out with relief from a little of the pain and mystery going on. Most support comes from outside your “circle” and the watchers mentioned earlier will come around after they see a number of complete strangers showing them how they should behave. It is totally up to you to determine if those watchers deserve to be invited to your new “circle.” Watchers, this is something you must understand and live with without ill feelings.
Support Your People without Asking for a Discount
No absence when they need you. No doubt when encouragement is required. No hate when love is the answer. Absolutely no request for a discount when the price is set.
Support Your People without Asking for a Discount
Food for thought…..you do the dishes!
